Singapore

September 2013
Ken & Elizabeth Mellor

 

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THE 2013 PROGRAM HAD TO BE CANCELLED

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PARENTING WITH TRANSACTIONAL ANALYSIS

16th September 2012
10.00am to 5.00pm

Parenting has had an important place in Transactional Analysis from the beginning. By attending the workshop, participants will have exposure to:

1. A brief history of parenting in TA
2. Ken's and Elizabeth's hands-on and practical approach to parenting
3. Important distinctions between: parenting and therapy, scripting and script, pathology and normal childhood experiences, expectations, guidance and limits, and between encouragement reinforcement, and uncomfortable consequences

The point will be made that every exchange we have with children and young people is recorded in our children and this can be used to their benefit. Knowing this can enable us to decide how we will act with children so they leave an encounter with us in better shape than when it started. This can helpfully involve answering the question: "What do I need to do so X can incorporate what he/she needs to be able to handle what is going on from now on?"

Other important areas to be covered will include:
1. Having fundamental respect for children and young people
2. The basic need for and importance of parents providing protection, leadership, and guidance in order to foster security, strength, self-confidence, sensitivity to others and respect
3. The value of having a specific, evolving 'parent map' for each of our children
4. Ways to make communication as easy and effective as possible
5. Several specific ages at which parents are wise to be alert and why
6. The phenomenon of 'four births'.

This will be a full, stimulating day with lots of learning that can be applied immediately. It can also fill gaps or build understanding for adults about the significance of their own childhood experiences. (1Day)

 

Venue: Executive Counselling and Training Academy Pte Ltd, 451 Joo Chiat Road, #02-07/08/09//10/11 Kantong Junction, Singapore 427664
Times:
10.00am - 5.00pm
Dates: 16th September, 2012
Contact Person: The Above academy
Telephone: +65 6346 6411 Fax: +65 6344 4296
E-mail: info@ecta.edu.sg
Website: http://ecta.edu.sg
Fees: Contact the academy for details.
Registration: The academy

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MINDFULNESS MEDITATION:
A LIFE-PROMOTING WAY OF WORKING

 

17th SEPTEMBER 2012
6.00pm - 10.00pm

People frequently associate meditation, including mindfulness meditation, with relaxation, calming ourselves, letting go etc. This can imply that it is used to empty out – empty the 'mind' – and in a sense to be less energised or tense about things. And this is certainly one set of results that people can get from practising mindfulness meditation. Also, for people who need to relax and connect to themselves, this is a life-promoting process.

At the same time, mindfulness meditation can be profoundly energising and enlivening. It brings people's energy and vitality directly into their awareness; it helps to release the past and mobilise the energy that was previously bound up with holding in that past; it increases the flow of vital force through our systems; and as the awakening of consciousness occurs, it releases the natural drive for health, energy, aliveness, balance, creativity, joy, love etc. that are inherent in our basic natures. All these outcomes promote life, health and fulfilment.

Ken and Elizabeth will give participants the opportunity to experience different aspects of mindfulness meditation by taking them through some of the processes involved and discovering the results. These will include:
• The expansion of clarity, acuteness, understanding etc.
• The rapid, meditative balancing and release of intense sensations, feelings, thoughts etc.
• Resolution of unfinished business using meditation (digesting experiences)
• Meditative managing of fantasies about the future.

The primary orientation will involve grounding, which involves cultivating physical awareness of what is occurring inside the body, around the body and the connections between the two. Grounding also involves integrating three elements of awareness: noticing, accepting and experiencing whatever is occurring. Each of these dimensions will be explored in detail.

Because this evening is experiential, participants can leave having had direct experience of these different dimensions and be able to continue using the practices afterwards.

           

Venue: Executive Counselling and Training Academy Pte Ltd, 451 Joo Chiat Road, #02-07/08/09//10/11 Kantong Junction, Singapore 427664
Times:
6.00pm - 10.00pm
Dates: 17th September, 2012
Contact Person: The Above academy
Telephone: +65 6346 6411 Fax: +65 6344 4296
E-mail: info@ecta.edu.sg
Website: http://ecta.edu.sg
Fees: Contact the academy for details.
Registration: The academy

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IMPASSES: A STRUCTURAL AND
DEVELOPMENTAL UNDERSTANDING

 

18th SEPTEMBER 2012
6.00pm - 10.00pm

The theory and practice related to impasses was developed initially by Bob and Mary Goulding. It was associated with the understanding that impasses were significantly responsible for many personal problems and that resolution of impasses occurred when old incidents were re-experienced and old decisions were re-decided. Known as re-decision therapy, it is a very powerful therapeutic approach. Bob and Mary also emphasised that 'the power is in the patient', a revolutionary and powerful departure from current views at the time. Because of their use of Gestalt techniques, their school of TA was also known in the early days to take a TA-Gestalt approach.

This workshop will be based on Ken Mellor's presentation of impasses in which he took a developmental and structural approach, which is an elaboration of the Goulding's original one. During the workshop there will be exploration of the following:
1. The three primary degrees of impasse and how to recognise them
2. Ways of bringing the different elements (polarities) into awareness
3. The purpose of doing this
4. Re-decision work and impasse resolution (three impasses, three re-decisions)
5. Doing the work (two-chair work, the unifying process, Parent-Interviews, living life etc.)
6. Structuring the work so the process encourages the re-experiencing of old incidents/epochs
7. Recognising when someone is ready for a re-decision and the importance of insight
8. The spectrum from mechanistic to fully integrated re-decisions
9. The nature of effective decisions

There are several steps involved in this kind of process:
1. Identify the goals of the work/encounter with the client (involves some discussion of problems, situations etc.) and contracting in relation to them.
2. Identify currently 'active' impasses.
3. Use techniques for bringing the different elements of the impasses into the client's direct experience.
4. Discover relevant early decisions, encourage re-experiencing of these.
5. Make re-decisions and commit to future action in relation to them.

Exercises will be used during the workshop to promote the direct experience of the different elements of impasse resolution as outlined.

           

Venue: Executive Counselling and Training Academy Pte Ltd, 451 Joo Chiat Road, #02-07/08/09//10/11 Kantong Junction, Singapore 427664
Times:
6.00pm - 10.00pm
Dates: 17th September, 2012
Contact Person: The Above academy
Telephone: +65 6346 6411 Fax: +65 6344 4296
E-mail: info@ecta.edu.sg
Website: http://ecta.edu.sg
Fees: Contact the academy for details.
Registration: The academy

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